Power of Love
Love and Let Go.
To me every project, every business is like a love story. You have an idea, you fall in love with that idea, all your focus is on that idea, your passion transforms that idea into reality, your determination creates an action and after that feeling of indulgence, feeling of lust, there is a happy ending. But my question is: What is after happy ending?
That was the case of my first business venture. Like every young entrepreneur. Passion, Hard work and Determination will conquer anything. Endless hours of building a concept that only you fully understand. I felt the first arrow of love. Full of Hopes and Dreams. At that time I worked full time but my heart and mind were engaged in my new love affair. One beautiful morning I spotted a venue which looked like a perfect place for my concept. I closed my eyes. I saw everything so vividly and perfect. Happy people. Smiling, eating and drinking. From there everything unfolded. It took almost 2 years to make it happened but my heart felt warm and excited. Sometimes I felt full of doubts and uncertainty but I was in the amorous state of mind and I wanted this so badly that I haven’t seen the storm in the forecast. When I analyze stage one, where I create the bone structure, I compromised and agreed on elements that had never been right for the project. I was so keen to open the place that I allowed simple fears of the unknown and need of support determine my weakness in the final stage. However I mastered inpatients. I’m not sure if it’s about my fear of not being good enough or a fear of failure that makes me fight but I never give up. As for love, when we are young and fearless we have time and we want this so badly, nothing can stop us. Another important part of this is separation. It is just you and your project so you start losing some friends. When it’s hard you will need some guidance. I take only advice from people I would swap places with so that creates a lot of distance but at this stage, I didn’t really care because I was in love. However when you are happy, be selective about who you allow in. People that understand you and want to support you. People that admire you and you give them hope and people who love you and want to see you happy. This is a team you need to treasure. If I think about this at that stage I was blessed I had more support then opposition.
The Big Final. It’s a time where everyone comes together and it’s time for celebration. I felt proud, excited, exhausted and this is my happy ending.
But No matter how good your project is. It won’t work if your team doesn’t believe it. There is only one vision, yours! so you need people who will support, will help, will show you, will teach you, will fight for you, will be loyal to you and will hold you. Otherwise soon it will become il sorpasso.
I judge people by my experience. I am a strong, independent woman however if I am in an employment position I work to benefit, my employer. I will work tirelessly and hard to please. I worked for people I extremely admire. I would do anything to make their life easier and even more successful than before I walked in. It’s a giving and receiving relationship. Like in love I will give my partner all of me but he needs to do the same.
So Call me Lucky, I call this confidence. I know what I can give if you wish you will accept my terms and I will repay with interest.
When I walked into my own kingdom I thought it’s easy. I’ve been trained by the best. My kingdom has been taken from me in the blink of an eye. I learned very quickly that employees like me are very difficult to find and delegation is the only way forward. The attitude, I can do it all, will make you drain, will make you ill and will make you unhappy. But most of all I didn’t have time to focus on growing the business as I was too busy to deal with the problems of human nature and daily duty. Like in love there is a time when a romance ends and dream is over so for that reason only true love can conquer all.
The last stage is to let go. The place was and is a great business. It’s not the excellence I would like to see but it’s ruled by a different ruler so the vision needs to be adjusted. Everyone is needed but Nobody is irreplaceable. The projects are created, unfolded, adjusted and replaced. It’s part of life and it’s up to us what we will do with that experience. I feel nostalgic. This will always be my first love. Would I do it again? Absolutely. The happiness of my customers only made me more determine but it is my first love. It’s great and exciting but if you stop, you will never know your options. And after your first love, you dont stop loving, your love is stronger and more powerful.
Can I do it again? Hell, yes! Am I happier now? I’ve never been so happy in my life.